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MARRIAGES

Last night at my room in BTM we had a 30 year old guy(unmarried,who stays with us in our PG accomadation) giving us a lecture on the ill effects of marriages which had a lot of humorous underones to it.He was of the opinion that guys must marry by 29 or 30 which would be "ideal" for guys,which was seconded by couple of 26 year old workaholic infoscions. they said that marriage was more of a societal compulsion and a torture that one had to neccesarily undergo ,where the excitement would be only for the first 2 years at the max. These guys ,suprisngly prefer the "bachelor"status than ending up being married.

I agree that one has to first settle down in life ,before which he marries.., but I definetely reject their theory of marriages being a pain.The age hardly matters.As long as the couple have the emotional and physical maturity to deal life and feel the need for each other , even 22 or 23 would be fine ........Infact I know a friend of mine, who is just waiting to settle down ,as he is in his post grads now........and wouldnbe raring to go 4 a job ,as that would mean financial independence...and that would ultimately make him ready for marriage with his girlfriend.He definetely is foccussed towards career ,but at the same time, he hasnt lost that interest towards life,wife etc....... that is how one section of the moder era is .

I just dont understand the system of arranged marriages where one guy marries for the sake of marrying and gives specifications of how his wife should look.One of my cousins ,who is 28 now,is a doctor by proffession(damn brilliant guy ) and is a sanskrit scholar.....who said that he wants a wife who understands sankskrit poems and literature....and is a a doctor too.My question is ,why dont people search for their partner themselves rather than relying on the matrimonial column and other third party info....from "andha theru mami or pakkathu veetu pati " .These days guys and girls find partners at 21,22...and I am honestly suprised my cousin hasnt found one by 28.on similar lines of his requirements.......if a software engineer were to choose a wife by giving conditions,it would be something like "wanted a girl who is a tester ,and has worked in java script,querying in oracle and has hacked into networks". Nothing against my cousin, but other general folk and the software engineers seem to have forgotten the very essence of a wife........and are pathetically guided by "the screwing" mentality.

CONCLUSION: hm..........its not that I am very much interested in a girl right now, but its to bring out the various ways of thinking of men.....about marriage.I wish I could add more , but as of now have to rush back to my lab to learn some SQL coding.......as i have a friend waiting 4 me.

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